That moment when you find yourself interested in a guy and you’re contemplating how to get his attention…
Your instincts tell you to make a move, but then a little voice in your head warns that strategy could backfire. A bunch of conflicting dating advice starts circling through your mind. Does it have to be this convoluted? That’s Maria’s question:
Hi April, I want to know if men like woman making moves? Chasing them, rather then having to wait for them to chase me? Or does it seem desperate to them and off-putting? I would think men like having a woman making the moves; it makes them feel special, helps them appreciate you more and allows you to stand out. But I’m unsure? Please help!
Maria, the beautiful thing about men and women is that everyone is unique, therefore what someone desires (or doesn’t) depends greatly on that individual. This is why I never give one size fits all dating advice. There’s already too much of that out there and it’s confusing women about their dating lives!
Here are 3 tips to give you the confidence and clarity you need for dating:
1. Be you. Be authentic and true to your nature.
2. Do what you want to do, not what you think someone expects you to do.
3. Focus on what truly makes you stand out. (Here’s a hint: It’s not your “moves.”)
It’s a fact. Men appreciate it when a woman expresses interest in them. It makes dating more enjoyable and inspires them to pursue you. However, I want to caution you to never “put on” any kind of behavior. It has to come from how you feel about a man and your centered ability to be open and express yourself with honesty and transparency.
Cast a Keen Eye at the Situation
Women who aggressively pursue men who clearly aren’t interested always end up looking bad and feeling even worse. So, you see, it’s not about the sexual attention you give, it’s about having sensitivity and awareness of who you are, who you’re with, and how he feels about you.
Contrary to what you’ve been told, when men are looking for a relationship they aren’t looking for mystery when it comes to gauging your interest. So, next time you like a guy, say so. Pay him a compliment. Smile and tell him you think he’s terrific and handsome. That’s more than enough of a green light for any guy!
I know this is a topic on which everyone has an opinion! Don’t be shy! Share yours in the comments!