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The Friday Takeaway

Five Weeks to a Fresh New Love Life — Week Four: Sexify Your Style!

Now that spring is here, it’s the perfect time to take a look at your style! Are you choosing clothing to inspire romantic attention? Or have you completely checked out when it comes to your wardrobe?

Something I’ve learned from listening to the men I work with: every man wants to meet and know a woman who truly loves being a woman. That difference is something men find appealing and refreshing. Men don’t want you to just be “one of the guys.”

And part of the joy of being a woman is the fun we get to have with the way we dress! Who doesn’t love to pick out a new outfit, a great pair of heels, or a new fragrance that instantly lifts your spirit?

Take a Look in the Mirror

This weekend, take out the clothes you typically wear on date, put them on, and stand in front of the mirror. How sexy do you feel? How do you walk, stand, or sit in those outfits? Sexy comes from within, but your clothes will help to bring it out into the world.

And guess what? You’re also going to want to look at how you dress for work. Think you can’t have a corporate job and still look sexy and feminine? Think again. Remember, men are all around you in your daily life. If you’re single, you can’t afford to clock out from your single style just because you’ve clocked in at work.

So, it’s not just dates you need to focus on, it’s all the moments and days in between. If you have clothes in your closet that don’t serve your femininity, get rid of them.

You’re a single woman; make the most of all of your opportunities!

What Does Dressing Sexy Look Like?

A date is an opportunity to create romance so your wardrobe needs to look like you’re interested in being romanced! If you’ve got great legs, show them off! Beautiful neckline? Wear a blouse that reveals your gorgeous skin. A man doesn’t need to see everything, but he is interested in seeing your silhouette. (Yes, even the good guys!)

Of course, sexy does NOT mean slutty. You can look elegant, professional, stylish, smart, and sophisticated and still look sexy. Sexy simply means you look like a woman and dress for your curves.

And it’s fine to look pretty, but you should know pretty doesn’t always translate to sexy.

Sexify Your Style

On your next date, leave the jeans and slacks in the closet and wear a dress or a skirt with a pair of fantastic heels. Even if your next date is not the man of your dreams, you’ll be getting attention from everyone around you and that can be a great experience.

Must-haves for your wardrobe:
Heels
Skirts
Dresses
Eye-catching necklaces

Thoughts to keep in mind when shopping:
Feminine
Approachable
Soft
Sexy

If you’re still unsure about how to create a single-style wardrobe, find a stylist in your area to go through your closet and do a one-day shopping trip with you. It might surprise you to find how much you enjoy adding a little sexiness to your look!

Trust Your Natural Intelligence and Have Fun!

In my interviews with women, I consistently hear how they’ll dress down for a first date and leave the sexy dress behind. It’s all in an effort to be taken seriously or to not give the wrong impression to the wrong man. 

If this is your thinking, you’re not giving yourself enough credit. No one is going to take you seriously because of the way you dress. Your natural intelligence and confidence will do that for you!

Have fun with your sexy style and get out there and feel good about being seen. Spring is the perfect time to attract a great new guy!

Try this and let me know how it works for you! I’d love to hear your stories about what kind of responses you get!

Read Part Five: Seize the Day! Here’s where you embrace saying YES.

Much love,

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