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Five Weeks to a Fresh New Love Life — Week Three: Get a Great Wingwoman!

Some things are just easier and more fun when you have someone along for the ride — to keep you company, lend an extra perspective, or cheer you on. This is why you have friends!

With all the ups and downs of dating, the relationships, heartbreaks, job promotions and big life events, they’re the one constant that remains no matter what. But have you ever asked yourself if all of your friends are good for your love life?

Not all of your friends are the same, and not all of them have the qualities you want in a wingwoman. Today I’m going to tell you what to look for in a dating cohort, and why you even want to have one in the first place!

Four Qualities of a Great Wingwoman

1. Fun! — A great wingwoman is someone you enjoy going out with. You have great conversations and common interests, but it’s so much more than that. You both need to have a similar energy, attitude and outlook.

2. Independent — A great wingwoman is single, feels great about herself, and has a positive attitude about men. She makes easy eye contact and has a “sunny disposition.” She loves going out and meeting people and isn’t attached to the outcome of meeting “the one.” She dresses feminine and sexy, but not over the top revealing. She should be the type of person who loves to look great, but isn’t there to have every man in the room staring at her.

She also knows that when you’re out on the town, she doesn’t need your full attention. This is a woman you don’t have to babysit. She’s independent and likes being around other interesting and attractive people.

3. Friendly
— A great wingwoman is open to conversation with all people and not only the men she finds interesting and attractive. She enjoys light conversation, she’s quick to smile and is very approachable. She’s never sarcastic with new men who approach your table of friends, but rather is sweet and welcoming. If a man is interested in you, she promotes you by giving you verbal praise. She’s never competitive with you or with men. She simply trusts that there are enough great guys to go around.

4. She Feels Great About You — A great wingwoman adores you and wants the best for you. She celebrates you when you’re up and holds your hand when you’re down. She’s the woman who wants you to succeed with everything in life — especially with men. If she’s suffering from a broken heart herself, it gives her hope to know that you’ve found someone special. Above all, she has a feeling of love attracts love and light attracts light.

Why It Matters

Having a great friend along can make it easier to connect with others, including men, and give you the extra confidence required now and then when you’re trying to make the most of your single journey. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re ready to meet someone. Having a companion who isn’t competitive, jealous, or negative can help you keep your spirits up when you aren’t having luck meeting the kind of man you’re looking for.

Are YOU a Great Wingwoman?

When you find the right cohort, then it’s time to ask yourself if you are giving what you’re getting. Take a look at the list above and see if it applies to you. One thing you might notice is that the same qualities that make someone a great wingwoman, also make her a great catch!

Click Here to Read Part Four: Sexify Your Style!

Have you ever had a really rotten experience with a wingwoman? Share your stories with me and of course, feel free to share this with your girlfriends on social media. I believe we all have much to learn from each other!

Much love,
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