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Making Mr. Right: What You Didn’t See in Episode #4!

Note: if you watch the clip above, be sure to click on “stop the countdown” at the end, or you’ll be taken to the VH1 website.

Last night’s episode of VH1’s Making Mr. Right was all about observing the guys during group activities. The girls tried to determine if the guys were compatible with them based on their interests, and learned this was much more complicated than just a simple exercise. (Meanwhile, some of the guys had started to suspect the girls might be secret admirers, instead of the matchmakers they were pretending to be!)

But what you didn’t see, was the advice I gave Brittany, who was struggling with her growing attraction and connection to Matt. He wasn’t an original choice for her, but I really wanted her to get to know him without worrying so much about the outcome. I was worried Brittany might be going for the wrong guy so I had to sit her down and give her some guidance.

It’s a lot like the advice I give to my coaching clients. You have to get out of your own way, out of your head and pay attention to your heart. It’s vital to your relationship success that you know how to choose someone based on your needs as much as your wants.

If you’ve had your fair share of dating men who were your physical ideal but who had no idea how to make you happy for the long term, it might be time to update how you prioritize your wish list! When you are truly ready for a long and enduring relationship, what you actually need from a man will all of a sudden become sexy to you. No longer will you be drawn and attracted to the immature man-boys who leave you feeling lost and lonely. They simply will not hold any appeal for you. And wouldn’t that be nice!

Tune in next week to see what happens when we explore what creates chemistry between men and women and see if the guys discover our rouse! You can catch VH1’s Making Mr. Right Wednesday’s at 10/9c.

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