Sparks! with April Beyer

We all have those times when we have trouble letting go of a relationship that has run its course, and Emilia is struggling with that situation right now. My advice to her might surprise you.

I broke up with my boyfriend in October last year and I think I still love him. I’ve tried to forget about him, but I just want to know what he’s doing all the time. How do I stop this feeling?

Emilia, thanks for writing. …

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You would think that with millions of people dating online, it would increase your chances of finding a great guy. And yet, with access granted to everyone, it can be challenging to learn who’s worth your time and who is not.

It’s tough to win at this when you’re burned out and decide to give up. I created this series to help you stay in the game and have a fun time while you’re at it. In Part Three I …

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So many times we hear men or women say they “just knew” when they met “the one.” That’s what Sarah’s question is about today:

Thank you for all of your wonderful advice and encouragement. Your warmth, authenticity, and intelligence are inspiring. I feel so much more grounded and comfortable in the presence of men after listening to you! I wonder if you would be willing to talk a bit about your own experience with your husband, and speak to the

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Our parents didn’t meet this way. Has dating, relating and romance come down to this? Sitting at your desk and creating a profile, smiling at the camera for malibusurferguy240? The idea of opening your heart and putting yourself out there for all to see, judge, choose or pass-up makes most people cringe.

I understand. As a professional Matchmaker I know how a skilled and trained eye is necessary for bringing the right people together. I’ll be honest, I’m not a …

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There’s not a woman or man who hasn’t questioned their relationship at one point or another. It’s especially normal to assess whether or not you’re in the right relationship when you first start dating. After all, it’s your love life. Is anything more important? I just received this great question from Leslie:

I love your advice and I’m so grateful for your site, where I can learn from someone I trust. My question is about compatibility. I’m in a fairly

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I’m inspired to write today about a movie I watched this weekend. Written and directed by Sarah Polley, a (brilliant) young filmmaker, it’s called “Take This Waltz.” The movie caught me by surprise. I wasn’t looking to settle into a movie on a lazy Saturday afternoon; in fact, I was trying to leave the house and get out and feel the sun on my face. And yet, I couldn’t stop watching. This movie was so artfully done with tremendous …

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In the first part of this series we discussed how to choose the right dating site for you, and how to select amazing photos that will make you stand out. And that’s what this series is all about: in a sea of millions of profiles, you must do something that elevates you and causes men to stop, read and send you an email!

Attitude is Everything

Have you ever wondered why some women meet great guys online, while others are …

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It’s not always easy to accept, but we each attract exactly who and what we’re ready for at any given time in our lives. If you aren’t getting what you want from the men you’ve been dating, my advice to Ginell will resonate with you. Here’s her question:

Since my divorce 3 years ago I’ve noticed that I keep falling for emotionally unavailable men. I’m afraid of being let down again and having to settle for less than what I

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For the next 4 weeks, I’m going to give you my best insider tips on how to succeed online. But what does that mean? Basically, to be successful at online dating, you need to have the right tools, knowledge, and attitude. Any one of these three elements can make or break your experience.

Is Online Dating Painful or Powerful?

If you’ve ever dated online than you know how scary, uncomfortable and exhausting it can be. Then why do it? Because …

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What happens when you meet a man who has everything you’re looking for — but just one thing is missing: he’s not in your income bracket? Maybe he’s a cute teacher and you’re on a partner track. Or maybe he’s an emerging entrepreneur who’s still getting established, while you’ve already become a homeowner.

How do you navigate the situation without creating awkwardness or hard feelings? That’s what Kim is struggling with.

Hi April, I’m 32 years old and do very …

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